Parental Alienation

 Dear O and C,     How have you been?  It's been awhile since I've written you.  I've been very busy with life.  Having two little boys is a lot of work!  CS and BH, remind me so much of you two when you were little.  They have so many of the same mannerisms as you two did.  It almost seems surreal at times.  I feel so truly blessed to have four beautiful and healthy boys.  I am beyond grateful.     Since I last wrote to you, your mother agreed to set up an email account for me to contact you at.  I have written you two emails.  She prefaced her message to me by saying there will be no guarantee that you will read or respond to the emails.  I agreed, of course.   All I can do is keep trying.  I have written you two emails since.  I have no way of knowing whether you read them or not.  So, needless to say, you didn't respond.  I am not upset by that, I just hope that some day you...

 Dear O and C,     Happy Summer! I hope you guys are enjoying yourselves.  I miss you very much and wish I could see you.  I drive by your apartment every day on my way to work hoping to catch a glimpse of you.  No such luck.  The best I can do is dream and imagine what you look like.  On Wednesdays, today, there is a food truck event in the local park near you.  We have gone a couple of times.  Again, I'm always hoping that maybe you will be attending the event too.  It hasn't been the case so far.  I do hope you are getting out and about and enjoying all of the great things our city has to offer.  There are so many events during the summer which I envision you guys would have a blast at.  I hope you're not inside all day playing video games.     Your mother sent me an update via our talking parents app about a month ago.  This was wildly strange considering she abruptly stopped sending me updates afte...

Dear O and C, Once again, I have been intrigued to write based on recent findings.  R was going through our district track and field results, because she was curious if you, O, participated in track and field this year.  To her surprise, and mine when she told me, we were delighted to read that you placed 4th in the 50 meter dash O.  That’s awesome!  Congratulations!  However, to our dismay your last name was listed as your mother’s last name.  That is not your last name.  Your last name is my last name, until you legally change it.  This is just one more example of the extreme parental alienation tactics your mother has implemented. It’s really tragic to think about.  It’s also one of the last remaining pieces that keep the two of us connected.  I know your mother’s goal is to sever absolutely all ties, and she has darn near accomplished that.  I’ve recently come to the conclusion that the only thing in the world that needs to ...

Dear O and C,           I miss you so much.  It’s been awhile since I’ve last written to you, and I have lots to share.  Your mother did not pursue legal action after I saw you at the baseball game C.  She had no cause to pursue legal action, but that never stopped her before.  I still haven’t received any agreed upon updates from your mother.  My guess is, I never will again.  I’ve been debating asking her why she stopped sending them, but I don’t want to stir the pot, or give her any reason to get her attorneys involved.  She has me right where she wants me in terms of my relationship with you two; pacified and helpless.  I have presumed nothing but positive intentions throughout this miserable so called reunification process; to no avail.  It has been anything but reunifying. In fact, due to your mothers’ alienation efforts, it has been the complete opposite. Each day that we are not attempting to heal our rel...

Dear O and C,           You’re not going to believe this, but another incident occurred.  This time I actually saw you, C. R and I were taking CS for a walk around the block, and he wanted to go to the park; the same one we go to nearly every day.  So of course, we took him.  Actually, I took him, and R went home to make dinner.  As I was approaching the park, and walking past the baseball field, I saw someone sitting in the bleachers that looked like your mother, C. I panicked slightly, but kept walking with CS towards the playground.  Once I got there, I called R, and asked if she could come over to the park and confirm what I thought to be true.  Sure enough, when she reached the playground, she confirmed that in fact, it was your mother sitting in the bleachers, C. This was terrifying.  The park is one of my very few safe places in SM, where I can go and not have to worry about seeing any of you, or being harassed....

Dear O and C, The torture continues. C, I found out you play basketball for your middle school.  While this should make me happy, it doesn’t because your mom chooses to weaponize it.  Your team played at my school on Monday.  I am the gym supervisor, so normally, I would be there to keep score and make sure things run smoothly.  Because your mother recently contacted the district again, and once again, gave them misinformation about what our most recent court order states, I wasn’t allowed to be there.  I received another letter in my file with strict directives; one of them being, I’m not allowed to be on any campus where you and your brother will be.  Once again, there is not a “no contact order” in place.  Your mother attempted, but failed, to get a restraining order against me.  The only thing preventing me from seeing you, is your mother, and now, because of your mother, my district.  She has caused me so much pain and stress.  I ...