6/6/25

Dear O and C,

Once again, I have been intrigued to write based on recent findings.  R was going through our district track and field results, because she was curious if you, O, participated in track and field this year.  To her surprise, and mine when she told me, we were delighted to read that you placed 4th in the 50 meter dash O.  That’s awesome!  Congratulations!  However, to our dismay your last name was listed as your mother’s last name.  That is not your last name.  Your last name is my last name, until you legally change it.  This is just one more example of the extreme parental alienation tactics your mother has implemented. It’s really tragic to think about.  It’s also one of the last remaining pieces that keep the two of us connected.  I know your mother’s goal is to sever absolutely all ties, and she has darn near accomplished that. 

I’ve recently come to the conclusion that the only thing in the world that needs to be worried about is what’s right in front of you.  In other words, there is no sense worrying about you and your brother, because it’s not in front of me.  It would be wasted energy, and useless to worry about.  On the same token, it would not be worth it for you or your brother to worry about me, because I’m not what’s in front of you right now.  I’m going to guess that what’s in front of you is each other, school, friends, extra curricular activities, summer, and your mom’s side of the family.  So that is where your focus should lie.  For me, my main focus is my wife, my two boys CS and BH, my work, my house, my family, my friends, and my hobbies; so that is where my focus lies.  I think it is beneficial to put energy and effort into things you have some control over or stake in.  Equally important is to get energy back out of those things, into your own soul.  As hard as it may be at times, it’s the right thing to do.  There’s no sense focusing on the things you cannot control.  Let the past be the past, and focus only on the present.  I think that’s advice that could benefit everyone, and I hope it’s how you are living your lives. 

I pray to God that someday you two are what’s in front of me again. 

Take good care. 


Love,

Dad














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