Parental Alienation

Dear O and C, Once again, I have been intrigued to write based on recent findings.  R was going through our district track and field results, because she was curious if you, O, participated in track and field this year.  To her surprise, and mine when she told me, we were delighted to read that you placed 4th in the 50 meter dash O.  That’s awesome!  Congratulations!  However, to our dismay your last name was listed as your mother’s last name.  That is not your last name.  Your last name is my last name, until you legally change it.  This is just one more example of the extreme parental alienation tactics your mother has implemented. It’s really tragic to think about.  It’s also one of the last remaining pieces that keep the two of us connected.  I know your mother’s goal is to sever absolutely all ties, and she has darn near accomplished that.  I’ve recently come to the conclusion that the only thing in the world that needs to ...

Dear O and C,           I miss you so much.  It’s been awhile since I’ve last written to you, and I have lots to share.  Your mother did not pursue legal action after I saw you at the baseball game C.  She had no cause to pursue legal action, but that never stopped her before.  I still haven’t received any agreed upon updates from your mother.  My guess is, I never will again.  I’ve been debating asking her why she stopped sending them, but I don’t want to stir the pot, or give her any reason to get her attorneys involved.  She has me right where she wants me in terms of my relationship with you two; pacified and helpless.  I have presumed nothing but positive intentions throughout this miserable so called reunification process; to no avail.  It has been anything but reunifying. In fact, due to your mothers’ alienation efforts, it has been the complete opposite. Each day that we are not attempting to heal our rel...

Dear O and C,           You’re not going to believe this, but another incident occurred.  This time I actually saw you, C. R and I were taking CS for a walk around the block, and he wanted to go to the park; the same one we go to nearly every day.  So of course, we took him.  Actually, I took him, and R went home to make dinner.  As I was approaching the park, and walking past the baseball field, I saw someone sitting in the bleachers that looked like your mother, C. I panicked slightly, but kept walking with CS towards the playground.  Once I got there, I called R, and asked if she could come over to the park and confirm what I thought to be true.  Sure enough, when she reached the playground, she confirmed that in fact, it was your mother sitting in the bleachers, C. This was terrifying.  The park is one of my very few safe places in SM, where I can go and not have to worry about seeing any of you, or being harassed....

Dear O and C, The torture continues. C, I found out you play basketball for your middle school.  While this should make me happy, it doesn’t because your mom chooses to weaponize it.  Your team played at my school on Monday.  I am the gym supervisor, so normally, I would be there to keep score and make sure things run smoothly.  Because your mother recently contacted the district again, and once again, gave them misinformation about what our most recent court order states, I wasn’t allowed to be there.  I received another letter in my file with strict directives; one of them being, I’m not allowed to be on any campus where you and your brother will be.  Once again, there is not a “no contact order” in place.  Your mother attempted, but failed, to get a restraining order against me.  The only thing preventing me from seeing you, is your mother, and now, because of your mother, my district.  She has caused me so much pain and stress.  I ...

2/5/25 Dear O and C,           How are you?  It’s my mom’s birthday today; your grandmother.  She is 70 years old.   We had a huge surprise party for her this past weekend.  You two were pretty much the only family members not there.  Of course, you were mentioned, and in all of our hearts.  Although grandma had the best party possible, having you two there would have made it even better.  We all miss you so much.  I fear my mom will pass away before she sees you two again.  It would be her dying wish to see you.  At this rate, I fear I will pass away before I ever see you again.  The thought is daunting, but all too realistic.             These letters read like fiction due to how outlandish some of the things I talk about are.  Your mother is at it again.  Just when I think she might be turning a corner, she abruptly changes course and destroys any pro...

Dear O and C, I miss you so much.  Lately, it’s been tearing my heart apart when I think about how much I miss both of you.  I watch videos from when you were little.  We didn’t have a perfect home, but we had a darn good one.  It’s obvious to see how much you and I loved and cared for each other.  You felt safe around me.  I was so happy to be your father.  There is also a video where O, you are lying on the floor with your blanket, asking your mother for something.  She is, of course, filming you, and telling you not to throw a temper tantrum.  It is very clear that you are not throwing a temper tantrum, and are only asking for something.  Your mother goes on to threaten you and says, “if you don’t stop throwing a temper tantrum, I’m going to film you, and send it to all of your friends so they won’t want to play with you anymore. When they see this, they won't want to be your friends anymore.”  This is so cruel.  Yet, this...