2/5/25


Dear O and C,

        How are you?  It’s my mom’s birthday today; your grandmother.  She is 70 years old.   We had a huge surprise party for her this past weekend.  You two were pretty much the only family members not there.  Of course, you were mentioned, and in all of our hearts.  Although grandma had the best party possible, having you two there would have made it even better.  We all miss you so much.  I fear my mom will pass away before she sees you two again.  It would be her dying wish to see you.  At this rate, I fear I will pass away before I ever see you again.  The thought is daunting, but all too realistic.  

        These letters read like fiction due to how outlandish some of the things I talk about are.  Your mother is at it again.  Just when I think she might be turning a corner, she abruptly changes course and destroys any progress that could have been made.  Your mother is very sick mentally.  I hope someday you will realize this.  By the time you do realize it, she will have caused you tremendous harm, maybe even irreversible harm.  I fear you will suffer from the same diseases she does: bipolar disorder, Munchausen syndrome, compulsive lying, extreme narcissism, and attention seeking disorder. 

        As I mentioned to you before, your mother agreed to send me updates about the two of you.  The first update was very brief.  The second update was brief too, so I prompted her for more information.  She obliged and sent another message with more information.  This past week, I was due my third update via the parenting application.  Instead of getting an update, she chose to contact my district office yet again.  I thought to myself, what in the world could it be this time.  I haven’t seen or spoken to either of you since our last family therapy visit, two years ago.  It turns out O, you play basketball for your middle school.  I had no idea because your mother never told me this.  Well, your school uses our gym for your home games.  I too coach basketball, so I am frequently in my gym, which is also my place of work I might add. I was finishing up practice one day, and apparently you, O, saw me.  I can assure you, I did not see you, and if I did, I did not recognize you.  Trust me, if I saw you, I would have been freaking out about what the repercussions would be.  I’ve already been issued several directives by my HR department based on false claims your mother has made against  me.  Despite having zero grounds for my HR department to issue me any directives, I follow their orders to a tee.  I have never reached out to you, I have never seen you, I don’t talk about you to anyone at my work.  I give you all the respect and privacy your mother has demanded and then some.  For her to continue to harass me at my place of work is pure evil.  Her relentless attacks and harassment have caused me numerous health conditions including but not limited to: post traumatic stress disorder, headaches, nausea, loss of sleep, loss of appetite, dizziness, and anxiety.  Is this really what you want for your dad?  I wouldn’t wish this stuff on my worst enemies.  Someday, when you are old enough, I hope you will tell your mother to stop.  She has caused nothing but pain and heartache to me and many of my family members. It’s unbearable at times.  I can’t help but think the two of you are supporting her in her terror against me.  

        I know you will most likely never see these letters.  It is my hope to someday publish them for others to read.  I want to shed light on the catastrophic carnage parental alienation can bring upon the alienated parent, and the alienated parent’s family.  It’s so unique and unlike any other facet of life, it’s impossible to understand the true pain and harm unless you’ve experienced it yourself.  I equate it to a legal form of torture. My goal would be to bring more attention to Parental Alienation, and push for it to become a crime, in hopes that others wouldn’t have to suffer the same fate I have. I have lost the two people I loved the most, maybe forever.  There is no describing the amount of pain and heartache that causes. 

        I have played nice, and by the rules for 5 years now, and nothing to show for it.  This time, I am not going to lay down and let your mother walk over me.  I am pursuing legal action in attempts to get the harassment to stop.  I have left you alone, now it’s time you leave me alone.  I have moved on with my life.  It’s time your mother moves on with hers.  I have accepted my fate, and given up all hope of ever seeing or speaking to you again.  All I wanted was to hear how the two of you were doing every couple of months; and even that proved too difficult a task for your mother to fulfill.  I hope there is a God, and I hope that God seeks justice for you, and for me. I will always love you guys.


Love,

Dad

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