04/1/23

Dear O and C, 

    Happy April Fool’s Day!  Your mother filed another Ex Parte. I wish this was an April Fool’s Joke, but unfortunately, it’s not. This time, she was attempting to get our reunification therapy suspended.  She had absolutely no reason for doing so.  This is just another alienation tactic on her part.  She wants me to quit and give up.  I assure you, I will not.  I am more committed now than ever before to heal and rebuild my relationship with you.  Her request to have therapy suspended was denied by the court.  Our next hearing is on May 11th to revisit my request to add supervised visitation.  Honestly, I don’t mind one way or the other if they grant the request or not.  On one hand, I would love to see you guys more often.  On the other hand, I don’t want to overwhelm you with more visitation, if you’re not ready for it yet.  I do believe that by spending more time together, we can continue to build a stronger bond.  We’ll just have to see what the judge thinks.  I have to tell you, this has been the most difficult, painstaking process I’ve ever been a part of.  Nothing is easy, or cut and dry, when dealing with family court.  Everything takes time, effort, and lots of money.  I have to schedule another mediation appointment with your mother, and the court mediator.  During mediation, we will discuss how therapy has been going, and he will make a recommendation as to whether we should begin supervised visitation or not.  Honestly, it’s such a waste of time.  Our reunification therapist is on record stating that our visits have been productive, and filled with laughs and fun.  It’s already been over 6 months of reunification therapy; well past the original length of time we were supposed to go, before revisiting supervised visitation.  All of our therapy sessions have gone well, and without incident.  I’ve been sober for a year and a half, and submit sober link testing before and after every visit.  All of my tests have been negative.  There is literally zero reason for us not to move to the next step in the reunification process; supervised visitation.  

    Our last visit went very well, by the way.  C, I gave you my lucky buckeye; because you told me that Ohio was your favorite State. We played basketball, talked, and laughed.  O, I gave you a Michael Jordan basketball card, because I knew he is your favorite player.  He is mine too.  You were very excited.  You ate the brownies that R baked for you.  We played basketball, and spent some time on the floor having a bottle flipping competition.  You won of course.  I continue to look forward to our visits, and the time we get to share together.  I genuinely can feel the strength of our bond growing.  Although I know I have not completely earned back your trust, I will continue to work hard in order to do so.  

    Your new little brother, CS, loves you!  O, he looks just like you when you were a baby.  C, he has your blue eyes.  Caring for him reminds me of how much I used to absolutely love caring for the two of you.  There is nothing quite like the love you feel when caring for your child.  I loved every second I was able to care for the two of you when you were babies, and now I feel blessed that I am able to experience it again with CS.  I really hope you get to meet CS someday, and care for him as a little brother.  I want to reiterate to you, that in no way is CS a replacement for you two.  I love all three of you the same.  I would spend every second of every day, with each of you, if I was fortunate enough to be able to do so.  Until that day comes, if it ever comes, I will do everything I can to show you that I love and care about the two of you so much.  Take good care.


Love,

Dad

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