10/20/22

Dear O and C,

    A lot has happened since the last time I’ve written to you.  R and I got married.  We went on our honeymoon.  The three of us, the two of you and myself, had our third visit.  All good things.  I have heard that the two of you have had trouble adjusting to seeing me.  I want you to know that I understand.  This is going to be a difficult, and long journey for sure.  I want to be able to help and support you with these changes, as much as I can.  I am here for you, in any way that you need me to be.  I am totally committed to this process, and ensuring that we heal and repair our relationship.  I am here for you now, and for the rest of your lives.  

    I want you to know that R is here for you too, whenever that should factor into the equation.  She even spoke about the two of you in her wedding vows to me, and how she would love and support you as if you were her own children.  There was not a dry eye to be found in the audience when she was speaking about her love for the two of you.  You are loved by so many people.  All of your family members on my side, all of our friends, and even family and friends of R, whom you have never met.  You are loved and missed by everyone who once knew you.  I look forward to the day when you can once again be reunited with my side of the family.  I know our relationship is the priority, and I will never rush either of you into any relationship that you are not ready for. Lots of people, including your aunt, uncle, cousins, and grandma, love and miss you, and can’t wait for the day they get to see you again.  I can’t wait to see you on Monday!  I love you both very much.

 

Love,

Dad

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