09/26/22

Dear O and C,

    I can’t believe I got to see you boys today!  I’ve been waiting for this moment for almost two years.  When you walked through the door, we were all staring at each other, like deer in the headlights.  It was surreal.  It had been so long; I don’t think any of us knew what to expect.  I entered the visit, keeping my expectations low given everything that had transpired. I was completely prepared for the two of you to not want to talk to me at all.  It didn’t take long before the tension in the room melted away.  I was pleasantly surprised at how easy and effortless our interactions became.  We talked, laughed, and played with ease.  We kept it light and fun.  Our therapist recommended not getting into the tough stuff until we have re-established trust and ensured the environment was safe to share our feelings.  I couldn’t agree with her more.  She also said we are going to let the two of you guide the sessions, and decide when we start to engage in the more difficult conversations. I thought this suggestion was an excellent one.  I believe the two of you deserve that.  I couldn’t be happier with the therapist we have in place for our reunification.  Finally, we have a therapist who is able to put the two of you and your needs first.  I am so happy right now.  


Love,

Dad

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