06/18/23

Dear O and C,

Today is the third Father’s Day in a row where I haven’t seen or talked to you.  Honestly, as painful as that is, it’s beginning to feel commonplace.  It feels like all I know at this point.  The human mind is incredible; it can adapt and become accepting of just about anything.  The reason for this is survival.  The last two Father’s Days, that’s all I was trying to do; survive.  This Father’s Day is different.  While I miss the two of you beyond belief, I have a new reason to celebrate.  I have my son, CS.  He’s 15 weeks old now.  Again, he is not a replacement for you two.  However, he has brought a whole new light, and sense of purpose to my life.  He is an angel, and I love him very much.  The two of you would love him as well, should you ever get the opportunity.  CS reminds me how much I love being a father.  I love being a father to the two of you, and now I love being a father to CS.  Being able to care for a child, help nourish that child, support and love that child, in my opinion, is the greatest feeling in the world.  I felt that way with the two of you, and once again, I am fortunate to be able to feel that way with CS.  

Last year, I was informed that your mother posted on social media cards that you had made her for “Father’s Day.”  She probably forced you to do it, however, nonetheless, let me remind you of something.  She is not your father.  She never will be.  You only have one father, and that man is me.  I am your father, and I always will be, like it or not.  You will never be able to replace me.  I suppose that someday, you can disown me if you want, or attempt to replace me with another male figure.  However, biologically, you do, and always will, only have one father; me.  The notion of your mom playing both roles is sick.  It just goes to show her power struggle, and the need to be, or at least feel, like she’s in total control.  Whether you ever want to accept me back in your lives or not, you guys are smart, and you’ll see through her nonsense someday.  Until then, continue your survival boys.  


Love,

Dad

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