06/05/22

Dear O and C,

I’m sorry, and I love you both very much.  I wish I could have given you the cohesive family life that I never had, that you both deserved.  One thing I’ve come to know though, is that there is no such thing as a perfect family.  Some families whose parents stay together suffer from deep loss and tragedy.  Some families whose parents have gotten divorced, have gone on to live greatly successful lives.  There is no correct formula to what makes a successful life.  There are so many factors involved.  My hope for the both of you is that the adversity you’ve battled through makes you stronger and more adept at handling difficult situations.  I know you both have extremely loving hearts, and that is what I deem to be the greatest attribute a human being can have.  With love in your hearts, you can accomplish anything.  All of this being said, I’m sorry for my contribution to the trauma and heartache you have suffered.  I know you are both strong, and will find a way to cope, and thrive.  My behavior, my involvement, and my contributions to the chaos can never be forgotten or downplayed.  I own up to the harm I caused you.  I can also tell you, that through all of the adversity, I have become a better, stronger, more loving, kind and patient person.  I am well equipped to handle any situation life can throw at me.  Rebuilding my relationship with you guys, is at the forefront of my list of things to do.  I will forever work towards bettering myself as a person, as a father, and work towards building a better future for all of us.  

Love,

Dad

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