05/25/23



Dear O and C,

Happy day after Birthday C!  I was going to write to you yesterday, but I honestly couldn’t.  I was feeling too emotional and sad.  I miss you guys so much!  I was thinking about you all day though, and praying for you.  I was also wishing and hoping that you were having the best birthday ever!  I know you got to go to an overnight event through school, so I hope that went well.  I also keep checking the website to see if you won your championship game, but it hasn’t been updated yet.  Either way, I hope you enjoyed playing in the Championship game, if in fact you did.  

On Tuesday I got some rough news.  I coached with a lady whose daughter is in your class, O.  She informed me that you told her daughter, and other kids in your class, that, “your dad is dead.” That hurt to hear that.  I was also informed that your mother has been talking very poorly about me to many people at your school.  Neither of these things surprise me.  I guess I’m just disappointed.  I’m disappointed you would feel the need to say such things about me.  First off, it’s a lie.  I’m very much alive and well.  Second, it’s hurtful towards me, and probably confusing for your classmates.  I know it’s your way of coping with lots of negative and confusing feelings, and I will never hold anything you say about me against you.  I understand your hurt.  I understand your pain.  Someday you will know that I am here for you now, and that I always have been, I just wasn’t given the opportunity to show you.  

Anyway, I don’t want to let these negative acts detract from the fact that it was C’s birthday yesterday!  I can’t believe you are 10 years old, C!  You’re growing up so fast.  I want you to know that I am so proud of you.  Despite all of the hardship you have gone through recently, you are such a beautiful boy with so much to offer this world.  C, you are; kind, loving, caring, goofy, personable, smart, talented, creative, thoughtful, athletic, and handsome, just to name a few.  There is no doubt in my mind that you are going to grow up to do amazing things!  I can’t wait to continue to watch you flourish.  I will always be here to love and support you in any way that I can, every step of the way.  This week’s visit was canceled, due to you being out of town, C.  However, I can’t wait until our next visit, because I get to celebrate your birthday with you C.  And O, I got you gifts as well, and I’m looking forward to giving them to you.  Grandma also got each of you gifts, and she is really looking forward to me being able to give them to you.  She is also baking cupcakes for you!  I wish grandma was able to see you in person, as she misses you terribly.  But just hearing about my interactions with you guys has helped her a ton.  Well boys, enjoy the rest of your week, and God bless you both.


Love,

Dad

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