05/25/22

Dear O and C,

Back to the summer of 2021.  I knew that figuring out the details for selling the house was not going to be easy.  I knew that there was going to be lots of arguments and disagreements between my lawyer and your mother’s lawyer, regarding the sale of the home.  I knew, just like with everything else between your mother and I, that I would have to compromise and concede in order to make progress.  I’m not sure if you’ve learned this about your mother by now, but it’s her way, or the highway.  In life, I chose the highway.  But I knew if I wanted the sale of the home to move quickly, that I would have to be okay with her way.  And so, the compromises began.  She chose the real estate agent who would sell our home; and of course, it was a friend of hers.  Luckily, I did trust this agent, as he was the one who helped us buy the house in the first place. Surprisingly, your mother and I agreed on the work that needed to be done to the home, prior to the sale.  However, to no surprise, she did pull a fast one on me.  Without my consent, your mother and her neighbors decided to build a new fence between the two properties.  I never agreed to this, but your mother stuck me with the bill anyway.  I tried to fight it at first, but it was no use.  Your mothers’ attorney was relentless, and wouldn’t let it go.  One thing I’ve learned about your mother is that she’d rather pay $5000 in legal fees to prove she’s right or to stick it to me, rather than pay $1000 just to fix the problem in a rational way.  This was absolutely infuriating at times, but it also gave me so much validation for why I left the marriage in the first place.  The word compromise has never been in your mother’s vocabulary.    

The process of getting the home ready for sale began. I believe the home had to be vacated during the time of repairs. I’m not sure, but I believe this is the time when you moved into your new home.  This was very difficult for me because I had no idea where you were moving to.  I just had to pray and put my faith in God that you guys were okay.  The house was listed, and we were on our way.  Life would forever change as we knew it.  I’ve learned though, sometimes change is necessary and good.  


Love,

Dad

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